So being a mom contains a lot of fun (and difficulty and challenges and cleaning and wiping and trying to understand what is going on with your kids) discoveries about the upbringing of our kids.
When i first started being a housewife, i felt super deprived.
I was deprived of my social needs.
For many years i have been surrounded by people and suddenly, i was alone with a weeping child and it was lonely.
I'm lucky and grateful that i live near to my parent's house which means my only socialising activities were around my mom. But still. I felt left out of my own circle.
Friends around me started talking about stuff that i gradually couldn't catch up with, and there were times i just listen and pretend to be part of something.
Lama lama, i just gave up.
I hate pretending and i hate feeling like i "need" to belong.
I belong to me.
I should be happy with me.
And my family, of course. Especially my kids, since i'm with them 24-7.
So i started on my own path away from my people.
Walking alone and facing my problems as alone as i could, and keeping all the stories to myself.
What i realised now after all these years, is that this is Allah's way of keeping me away from things i were participating in:
Gossiping
Bad mouthing
Unnecessary talking
I still have to control on my word vomit, but the big part was staying away from it.
If you're feeling lonely, left out and perhaps irrelevant, know that it's the only way we can learn to control ourselves.
If Allah doesn't present this "loneliness" to us, we probably gain more sins (nauzubillah min zalik), so maybe loneliness is not so bad!
Being by ourselves with our own thoughts, actions and words in control, it allows us to be who we truly are.
Don't be afraid of loneliness.
Accept it, and use it to be a better person.
InshaAllah =)
Cue lagu BSB =p
Hehehee!
When i first started being a housewife, i felt super deprived.
I was deprived of my social needs.
For many years i have been surrounded by people and suddenly, i was alone with a weeping child and it was lonely.
I'm lucky and grateful that i live near to my parent's house which means my only socialising activities were around my mom. But still. I felt left out of my own circle.
Friends around me started talking about stuff that i gradually couldn't catch up with, and there were times i just listen and pretend to be part of something.
Lama lama, i just gave up.
I hate pretending and i hate feeling like i "need" to belong.
I belong to me.
I should be happy with me.
And my family, of course. Especially my kids, since i'm with them 24-7.
So i started on my own path away from my people.
Walking alone and facing my problems as alone as i could, and keeping all the stories to myself.
What i realised now after all these years, is that this is Allah's way of keeping me away from things i were participating in:
Gossiping
Bad mouthing
Unnecessary talking
I still have to control on my word vomit, but the big part was staying away from it.
If you're feeling lonely, left out and perhaps irrelevant, know that it's the only way we can learn to control ourselves.
If Allah doesn't present this "loneliness" to us, we probably gain more sins (nauzubillah min zalik), so maybe loneliness is not so bad!
Being by ourselves with our own thoughts, actions and words in control, it allows us to be who we truly are.
Don't be afraid of loneliness.
Accept it, and use it to be a better person.
InshaAllah =)
Cue lagu BSB =p
Hehehee!
