Monday, July 25, 2016

The mother gave birth to her son, and she was shocked! Here's why...

Assalamualaikum!

Title tu inspired by all this trending sites on fb. "The dog did this. I cried as soon as he did this." Or "This man proposes, but wait till you see what he's holding.." - such a bore. Hehe! 

Blogging suddenly feels like freedom now since all i do during this confinement period is plastering myself to my baby.

You know, the first baby memang get most of the attention, from the time they're in our belly up till they have sibling(s). Nadrah's name came about quite easily. I googled, and had several options, and then one day, i was reading the Quran, and the word "nadhirah" just followed me into my dream for nights. When i proposed the name Nadrah to my husband, he was just "OK. Jalannnnn"

But for our boy ni, i had several options, but all of them were declined by my husband.
He's got a friend whose name is this and he's like this, he's got a classmate with this name and he's like that, etc etc - the names all just tak jive and he seems to know so many guys that whatever name i chose, mesti ada someone with that name yang dia tak berapa berkenan.

I had my choice, my final name but everyone (husband and family) tak nak. 
Sedih ok! They even made fun of the name! T_T
Sampai hati. 
So, i told my husband that he should find the name since the ones i chose tak best. Selagi dia tak jumpa, then on the day our baby's born, he's gonna take the name i chose for him.

With that, my husband began his search for the best name for our son.
FINALLY, he chose Isaac Ashaal, and alhamdulillah i was good with it, my family's good with it, and the world seemed so much brighter since. Haha!

Now, pregnancy with Nadrah & Isaac are completely different. With Nadrah, it was the constant muntah from day one till the day i gave birth to her. With Isaac, it was ok, but he was like a vampire, sucking all my blood that i get tired easily and a lot of times, i would bend down (macam tengah rukuk) in the middle of shopping or something just to get the blood & oxygen into my brain. 
I bet it looks kinda weird. Apo ko hei pompuan ni tengah rukuk tengah tengah 7-11 ni? Bahahaha =p

And i thought since i've endured 14 hrs of contraction with Nadrah (before i submitted to epidural), i thought i'll be able to endure the contraction with Isaac. But NOPE. Isaac had to be induced because doctor said if i wait some more, he could be too big to come out naturally and i have a small pelvic, therefore kena c-sect. I didn't want that so i heed doctor's advice.
But oh my... Induced punya contraction... Sakitnye SAKIT!
Eventhough my husband said i handled the contraction better than when i was with nadrah (masa tu first time kan, so all the time contraction, i just cried. Zikir pun zikir la, tapi sakit pun sakit la), it was too painful! First induced tak jadi, but second time tu... Ya Allah, terus one minute apart je contraction. And i was in so much pain that my body vibrated like crazy and with every breath available, i begged for epidural. 
".....Sayang...Epi....Dural....Nurse...Now...", whisper with rattling voice, can you imagine? Haha!

Dapat epidural, baru lega and alhamdulillah, selamat beranakkan Isaac with 3 well-orchestrated push lead by the nurses & doctor. He weighed 3.6kg. Sihaaat dia =)
Nadrah came out into the world screaming, as if announcing her own arrival, and Isaac pulak came out completely blue (the cord went around his head) tapi dia chill je. The doctor and nurses tended to him so quick and all he did to announce his arrival was a short "Hua" with eyes open. Hahaha!
It was cute =p
Muka blue-ish sebab kena belit tali pusat. In case you're wondering why tak kena bedah, his heart rate and my air ketuban were ok, no signs of baby in distress. Alhamdulillah.

Unfortunately because i have GBS, we both had to stay at the hospital for a couple more days...
Anyone yang pregnant tu, make sure you ask your doctor to check your GBS k?
It's for your baby's own good.

So both pregnancies and labours were completely different. I know la that they wouldn't be the same, it's just that experiencing it made me realise that i was actually hoping that it would be the same so that i can 'handle it better the next time'.

It has been over a month already, alhamdulillah, but my little family is still adjusting to our living arrangement. And also, nadrah still hasn't fully grasp what being a sister means. Oh well. InshaAllah soon we'll all just adapt. 

Can't wait for my pantang to be over!
I'm already craving for some food, freedom and driving! But then, the next challenge will be doing chores with these 2 kids... Hmmmmm..

Oh well!



Here's the 4 of us!
May Allah permudahkan =)

Ps: i gave birth at PMC, sg Buloh. Doctor Wan Ratna.
Best. Love.


Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Cara perempuan vs cara lelaki masak

Assalamualaikum!


Haritu ada baca article pasal cara lelaki vs cara perempuan pam minyak.

Kononnya perempuan punya cara ni sangat kompleks la. Bahaha!
Well, guess what.
Laki laki ni pun bukan straight forward as they think they are.

Maka, dengan ini, meh saya bandingkan cara lelaki vs cara perempuan masak.

CARA PEREMPUAN MASAK:

Google, cari resepi. 
Dah jumpa resepi, keluarkan bahan bahan dari fridge/kabinet.
Basuh apa yang patut (sayur/daging mentah).
Bersihkan beras pastu letak dalam rice cooker untuk dimasak.
Potong sayur/bahan mentah.
Masak lauk.
Kalau ada lebih dari satu lauk, tengok prioriti camane. Masak benda yang ada bahan mentah (daging/ayam/ikan) dulu sebab they take time. Sayur masak bila agak agak nak dekat time makan supaya dia tak layu dan nampak sedih bila nak makan.
Bila masak, sempat basuh sudu/mangkuk/apa apa benda yang kita tak guna dah. Sempat lap lap sinki kalau ada masa lagi. Selagi boleh, satu sudu je kita pakai selama memasak. Sanggup basuh atau guna strategic planning supaya penggunaan sudu tidak merosakkan masakan.
Nasi dan lauk lauk dihidang dalam keadaan semua panas dan bahagia. 
Basuh pinggan/mangkuk/kuali/etc lepas selesai makan secara serta merta.


CARA LELAKI MASAK:


Google resepi.
Tengok gaya chef masak.
Tanya bini/mak mana bahan bahan.
Satu kerja, satu workstation; contoh: tempat potong bawang lain, tempat potong ayam lain. 
Setiap kerja perlukan alat yang berlainan; contoh: potong sayur guna pisau lain, potong kentang pisau lain, potong ayam pisau lain lagi, selagi ada pisau available, selagi tu la dia nak guna. Bila pisau dah habis, cari pisau lain dulu. Bila tak jumpa, tanya bini/mak mana pisau. Pastu baru basuh salah satu pisau utk dipakai. Applicable untuk sudu, garfu, mangkuk, kuali, chopping board, dan sebagainya.
Basuh beras. Pastu tanya bini/mak cukup bersih tak?
Dah masak beras, start masak lauk. 
Oleh sebab tak boleh multitask dan sebab otak single core processor sahaja, kena masak lauk satu persatu.
Bila masak lauk, tanya bini/mak mana kuali dulu. Teringat gaya chef masak macam senang sajaa. Campak campak, rasa, pastu hidang. Jadi, dia pun campak dan campak, gaul dan rasa (tak tau pun rasa nak kena camane. Asalkan ada 'rasa', cukup la).
Bila lauk sudah masak, tanya bini/mak mana mangkuk/pinggan utk letak lauk.
Semua lauk terhidang, tapi nasi belum siap masak.
Tunggu nasi.
Nasi dah siap, terus makan.
Pinggan mangkuk kuali kejadah semua terbiar lagi di tempat masing masing tanpa dibasuh.
Bini/mak sakit jiwa tengok sinki penuh, mintak lelaki tolong basuh cepat.
"Nanti la. I penat."




The end.


Ps: memang bukan sume laki camni. Just like bukan sume pompuan tak reti tukar tayar kete.


Monday, April 18, 2016

Personal view on LGBT

Assalamualaikum!

I think almost all famous shows i've been watching on Netflix & Hulu, mesti ada a hint of gayness.
Gay dude being all diva, lesbian couple, y'know?
It's like they're making sure all shows have some element of LGBT so that it'll seem normal for us.

Just the other day, my cousin and i were talking about it while our kids were playing in my house. The conversation sparked because of the reality show "I am Cait", about Caitlyn Jenner.
In case some of you don't know, it's the kardashians' stepdad and Kendall & Kylie Jenner's dad, Bruce Jenner, an ex-olympian runner, who turned himself into a woman.

It was last year when he/she suddenly became the talk of all variety/entertainment medias.
I honestly couldn't care less about the kardashians let alone the jenners, but without knowing how, i got sucked up into the news.
See how media make us care about things are not even worth our braincells!

So anyway, my cousin and i were talking about he/she, and i admitted that i don't know how i should react to transgenders. The pondans, the pengkids, i've met nice ones, and i've befriended some pengkids too in the past.
I have nothing against them, but i know i shouldn't be encouraging too.

Then there're these people who say "It's between me & God", "i was born this way", or whatever, well.. Yeah. It is between them and God, but we can't just let them think it's not in their power to change.
Because we all have this fight with nafsu.
I do. I've got lots of fights with myself! It's like a tag-team wrestling match, where i'm alone on one side, and all my nafsu on the other and they're changing places but sometimes they come 2 at a time. We win some fights, we lose some. But no matter what, the fight must go on. We'll get a break once in a while though, don't worry. Allah is Kind =)

Regardless of our level of piety, we all have battles with our inner demons.
No one's perfect but that doesn't mean we won't learn from our mistakes. We can continue becoming a better person, that's for sure.

Now, with the western media through movies, tv shows, music and social medias, they will make LGBT seem interesting or a trend, who knows kan. I've been wondering how i'd explain to my kids when LGBT would be a norm since it's becoming so even now..
But all i have for now is: 
These people are struggling with their sexual orientation and identity, and all of us who don't have that to go through should be grateful. Allah tutupkan aib luaran kita, you know? We all sin differently. Fitnah is a sin, gossiping, lying, cheating, stealing, zina - just because there's no physical proof that anyone do them, doesn't mean they're non-existent. So who are we to judge? Instead, what we can do is pray to Allah to make it easy for them and give them the strength and hidayah.
That's really what we should pray for everyone.

It's not a good speech or whatever, i know heheee.
Oh well.

I wish you all the best, my dear readers.
We all have wrestling matches within us and that's where good company always help. =)
Our friends and families are usually our supporter, so if you can choose your company, choose well.
And may Allah give us victories in our fights, may He provide us good people, and help us on the road to Jannah.
InshaAllah.
Amiiiin

=)


*LGBT = lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender


Monday, April 11, 2016

Silent battles

Assalamualaikum!


I mentioned in a few blogpost ago that imma try blogging everyday but obviously that didn't happen..
It's because, on a daily basis, things that i do or go through is too personal to share. So now i think its best to update the blog in my usual basis; which is bila i rasa patut je. Baahhaha =p

Today's story is really something to me..

Semua orang ada 'battles'. Sama ada pasal pasangan hidup ke, pasal kerja & kerjaya, pasal anak, pasal penyakit, mental/physical/emotional problems, pasal kewangan, anything kan.

I have a friend yang ada penyakit SLE.
Dia ni, kalau orang luar tengok dia, memang TAKKAN langsung suspect dia ni sedang fighting an unseen battle.

Dia memang salah sorang manusia paling kuat i pernah jumpa. Muka senyum sokmo, takde nak complain, takde nak heboh heboh hal dia dan sakit sakit dia, tak pernah nak cite masa dia kena warded kat ICU la, operation bagai, takde nak cite pasal struggle dia nak mengandungkan dan melahirkan anak, takde murung murung, ajak orang menangis dengan dia secara berjemaah - tapi serious, bila dengar cite cite dia, i sendiri tak tau nak senyum ke nak nangis! Nak gelak, rasa cam tak betul.. Tapi kalau nangis, macam over pulak.
Tadi i tahan je air mata masa dia cite padahal muka dia relax je! Paham tak confius kita camane! Hahaha!

She had struggled so much but the best thing about her is - she doesn't give in to negativity.
She's like "Okay, i ada SLE but so what? Life still goes on and i want to live!".
Dia yang banyak gila ujian, tapi DIA PULAK MOTIVATE I!

"Maria! You boleh, you tau tak!"

I rasa macam nak lempang muka sendiri sebab kena uji sikit je dah fikir bukan bukan pastu nak give up.

So.. bila dah dengar her stories tadi, apart from feeling guilty, i felt so much admiration for her.
Here's a girl, whose life story can be one of the most best selling non-fiction movie/novel, 'Based on true story' kinda thing, and she's the most positive, strong and funny person i've ever known, AND she doesn't show it! She doesn't make people weep for her or feel sad for her. She's just.. Happy =)

How many of us really keep our battles silent? I pun tak terkecuali. Wuwuuwuuuuu..

Kat facebook, jangan cakap la. Cite sedih sedih je nak share, walaupun benda tu macam takde pape sangat. Pastu tibe2 jadi viral, pastu tukang keyboard warriors sume pun nak share masalah masalah diorang pastu compare sape punya kisah lagi teruk..

I really think the strongest people are the ones who doesn't talk about their struggles or pains. One of the reasons probably being because they don't see their ujians as some kind of punishment from Allah. They see it as something they have to go through, just like everyone else does.

Hebat betul mereka mereka cam ni =')

I hope that Allah SWT showers His Blessings and blesses her and her family with a bright and happy future filled with barakah. I hope too that Allah permudahkan segala urusan kawan I and her family. May Allah SWT jadikan anak dia anak yang solehah, yang berjaya dunia dan akhirat, menjadi pejuang agama yang membawa manfaat kepada ummah, menjadi anak yang menjaga ibubapanya dan membawa mereka ke Syurga Firdaus.

Amiiiin!


*I hope that i can be as strong as her too.. InshaAllah =)*

PS: Beb, if you read this and yes, it's about you, i love you so much tau. =')

Thursday, March 31, 2016

La Kayena's Space For Rent Murah

Assalamualaikum!

So aside from selling clothes (which now available on at Maleeqa Boutique in Kuantan, Pahang), i also am renting out a space!

I thought that kat Damansara area ni macam takde space for rent yang murah.
Macam.. Motif nak spend RM100 for a photoshoot of simple products kan?
Motif nak sewa tempat RM2000 an hour untuk buat workshop for 5 people, kan?
Nak buat workshop kat rumah, tapi ada lelaki (abang/ayah/suami) atau perempuan, so tak cmfortable la nak ajak orang datang.
Atau mungkin nak buat photoshoot baju simple simple, takkan nak suruh model tukar tukar baju kat tengah tengah dunia kan?

So that's how La Kayena's SPACE FOR RENT came about!
I wujudkan tempat ni untuk membantu entrepreneur/educator yang berdedikasi tapi nak save budget. Apa salahnya kan? Semua benda harga naik je keje, so at least tempat ni boleh tolong sedikit sebanyak.


It's only RM10 an hour.
RM 10!
Although, it is a small space - about 200sqft, which means it can fit about 15 people comfortably, but hey, it's RM10 an hour kot. =)
It's at Damansara Perdana (and no, it's not at Empire Damansara ya)
no heavy traffic around there, easy parking, siap boleh shopping groceries kalau dah settle keje sebab ada Jaya Grocer kat situ, banyak tempat makan around.

Oh!
It has great Natural lighting!

Here are some pics of the space!








Furnitures are of course allowed to be moved around and props can be used.

I do encourage people to bring their own props and stuff, and also their camera equipments because i can't provide those. 


If interested, please send an email at 
lakayena@gmail.com

Ok? I will reply with more details =)

Hope this helps, people!


Tuesday, March 29, 2016

APOkah mungkin kita berjaya?

Assalamualaikum,

Watashiwa terkejut jugak bila dapat email pabila di-nominatekan sebagai calon pemenang Anugerah Pilihan Online. Shortform nya APO.

Boleh tengok website dia kat sini: APO 2016


The category is:


Dengan ini..
Persoalannya adalah..
Adakah aku layak berada di kategori ini bersama lelaki lelaka yang banyak gila followers dan supporters?

*Lap air mata dan hingus*

Gentle i cakap.. I don't know about this award things sebab selama i blogging or online-ing, i've never won anything from it. Nominated, yes, alhamdulillah. But that's the furthest it'll go.
And i don't mind!
I do what i do because i want to. It's basically not driven by any other outside influences like number of likes/shares/followers/etc. And the fact that there are people reading my blog and actually care about the things i share, it's a blessing! Not everyone has this opportunity.

So, without further ado, if you think i have benefitted in one way or another, i truly appreciate your vote =')

Cara caranya adalah:
1. Log masuk (guna fb/twitter/g+)
2. Isi details pastu click 'Hantar'
3. Cari kategori nombor 17: Selebriti Media Sosial Online
4. Calonkan semua dengan nama Maria Elena. Nyahaha!



BAHAHAHA!
Gelak malu sebenarnya.
I'm really awkward at these things. I mean, it's already awkward that i'm the only girl in this category.. Unless you count Faiz Dickie's multiple female personas. Haha!
But nonetheless, it is really really a huge honour.
=')


So yeah.
Goooooo Maria! *high kicks and shakes pompoms*
Woooooo!

ihiks =p





Monkey Cupcakes

Assalamualaikum,


Nadrah went to a "Field Trip" earlier today - they went to a cupcake workshop, which is so cool for kids her age to participate in.

Monkey cupcakes! I took that small bite. It tastes good!

I think that kids nowadays really have so much advantage at learning and i pray that they'll grow to be incredibly well rounded people. InshaAllah.

I actually put nadrah in her Montessori last year, when she wasn't officially 2 years old.
Orang kata kesian.
Kecik kecik dah masuk skolah.

Eva & Nadrah

I masukkan dia in the same school as her cousin, Eva, who's a year older than her.
They're like BFFs, like sisters; bila jauh rindu, bila dekat gaduh.
I put her in the same school because my cousin pun said the school is good.

Alhamdulillah nadrah is a quick learner, in terms of talking la. And the only reason i put her in a school at that young of age is because i know she'll learn so much more than i can offer.
I'm really not the creative type, so things like colouring, painting, doing diy stuff.. no matter how hard i try, i just have little patience for them.
I can play pretend or play toys with her. So, my idea was, let her play, sharpen her abilities and improve her social skills at school, then i will continue with others, like doing chores, and correcting her adab.

There was this one period when i rasa kesian la nak bawak dia skolah, so i don't force her to wake up and let her skip school. Well, it turns out that we became unproductive. She slept through the morning while i clean the house, and then when i want to rest, she wakes up and demands stuff. So we both become pissy and i just get more and more tired as the day goes by.
Because i get tired, i malas nak layan dia, so i let her watch the tv.
And then we both became zombies.
What a way to spend our day, right. (Not.)

Those were the days when parents can let their children out of the house and play with the neighbours at the playground..
Alhamdulillah i had that.. But this zaman?
The playgrounds are often a hotel for stray dogs, the parks and even the neighbourhood isn't so safe anymore, and now, it's the heat.
Terlepas pandang sekejap je, macam macam boleh jadi.

So yeah. Pergi skolah nadrah.
You get to play at the playground with your friends, you get to do painting with your friends, you learn how to share, you learn how to make cupcakes with your friends, and so so much more!
Her artworks which i tape on the wall coz she kept misplacing them, and she plays with them once in a while.

It's only for 4 hours a day, but it's enough time for nadrah to be at school.
And to be honest, the first time i sent nadrah to that school, i wasn't emotional ke apa pun.
I was actually worried for the teachers.

One day, one of the teachers told nadrah to get inside the school (they were playing at the playground in the school's garden), and nadrah said "No, you go inside!".
Even the headmistress kept telling me how 'strong-willed' nadrah is.
Coz she really is. That, and fearless.
Haha!
Oh well. Alhamdulillah she's happy anyway =)

Not saying that everyone should masukkan their kids skolah ASAP, coz seriously, if you can do it yourself, you should and i'm not recommending anything. I'm just sharing my choices in parenting.
There's no "My Way is The Best Way" here.
Strictly "I Am Doing My Best To Provide The Best For My Child(ren)" ONLY.

Here's to well rounded kids! Hehe!