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Monday, July 30, 2018

Taking Care To The Next Level

Salam & hi peeps!

Ok this is something i saw on the internet and i find it to be so funny 😂

So this guy said there's one reason why your old friend who you haven't met for many years is suddenly so eager to see you:
To sell insurance

I laughed so hard at this!

Ok jokes aside, insurance (or in other words, takaful) is very important!

I have been insured for as long as i can remember.
My dad got insurance for us, his kids. And then when we started working, we take over with the maintenance of the takaful.
Mine had to be completely different when i started working as an engineer sebab i had to go offshore, manufacturing factories, and fabrication yard.
Then i changed again when i transformed into a domestic engineer 😂 and my husband is taking care of it now. Husband also got insurance for our kids.

Actually, i used to be very ignorant about takaful but because i used to live with my grandma since i was a teenager, i saw how very useful having takaful is.
My grandma often go in and out of the hospital and it made me ponder.. I don't want to burden my family with financial problems if anything happens to me and i certainly cannot bear the thought of not being able to provide the best care to my family if anything happens to them.

That's why i believe that every family should be insured. I'm not an insurance agent but i am glad my husband has very good understanding of it.
He said to me, and i quote, safety is very important for his family (awwwww!!), and it is his main priority. And right now, our kids are really our world.

Even in every life, we make sure we do whatever we can in our power to protect our kids.

We just never know what's gonna happen in our future.
As parents, of course we try to make sure that we prepare ourselves and our kids for the worst and pray that Allah will always protect us.

So if and when we need it, inshaAllah with our insurances, we have the financial security.

And that's what this blogpost is for.
To spread awareness and to give you the idea of the importance of takaful.

If you're looking, PruBSN Impian offers you the comprehensive protection plan.
They have this Bundle of Joy for your child(ren), from the time they're in their mommy's tummy sampai la ke 25 years old. 
In this package they have 4 riders: Infant Secure, Vital Care Plus, Health Protector and Takaful Saver Impian.
The kids can choose to continue and take over their insurance when they reach 25 years old.
With this PruBSN Impian Package, kalau medical problems, accidents and all that, inshaAllah the fees will be covered.
But of course you need to make sure of the details of the takaful you're signing up for.

I hope for all parents out there that has yet insured your child(ren), do consider this PruBSN Impian. You can obtain more information from this website (click here).
Like i said, i'm not an agent so i gain no benefit from this, except that it may help you do what's best for you & your family. 
😊

Sayang 💝






Sunday, July 15, 2018

I'm Not The Same Again

Hello hellooooow~


So i've been meaning to blog more but seriously my computer is so slow, i get stressed out before i can even start!
Haiihhh...
Nak repair, malas sebab nak kena keluarkan duit.
I already spent so much for my car's repair 😭

So much has happened but i jadi malas nak share and when i do share, i jadi malas nak explain 😅
It's so weird.
Because the "me" that i used to know and be, used to not mind explaining and telling a story from beginning to the end. Even if it means repeating myself many times. I enjoyed talking.
Now, i just summarise and if orang tu faham, then good. Kalau dia tak faham, i won't repeat or explain further. I just biar je.

Told my husband about it, and it's as if we switched personalities.
He was supposed to be the Introvert, and me the Extrovert.

Now, i'm the Introvert and he's the Extrovert. 
He sees his friends more than i've ever seen mine.
He's even more active on whatsapp than i am! I nak reply whatsapp kat my own family group pun rasa macam terpaksa.

I used to be able to talk to anyone, strangers and friends.
Now, i stay away from strangers and only choose to talk to people i know personally.

Take an example from recent raya open house. I had to 'mingle' around, and i found it so difficult and uncomfortable. I just wanted to go home and relax.
But i forced myself to because i told myself i don't want to sabotage myself.
And at the end of the day, i was soooo tired and i fell asleep super early.
I told my husband about it, and he said, that was how he felt at social settings.

What is happening to me?

It's so strange.

My husband said it's probably because i've been alone for a long time, that i have probably adapted the introvert personality.

I wonder if that's true.

So i took the personality test (at 16personalities.com)
and YUP.
I'm an introvert now! 😂

It's so strange.
But it makes so much sense now.

It is strange because i literally am really different than before, and i didn't know it!

To be honest, the whole purpose of me doing this blogpost was to write about how lazy i am at explaining myself to people, to the point that i become super lazy at sharing stuff on social media, but i force myself anyway because i thought i was sabotaging myself. 😂

What is happening to me, seriously.
Oh well!


Maria The Fun One, has turned into Maria The Socially Awkward and Boring Mom.

Even my kids don't want to hang out with me because i'm boring and garang. Hahahahaha!!
Story of my life 🙆


What have you done to me?!!?


Friday, April 13, 2018

#Peargirlsproblem gone out of control!

Wah lama gila tak update blog!

Sorry ye peliks.blogspot.my T_T

The reason why i haven't been blogging, is because i feel like i've been doing enough of sharing through my vlogs and podcast.

In case you didn't know, i have been updating my videos quite frequently, and the podcast is on every week!
This is my recent vlog -


As for podcast pulak, you all know i share my tips and have discussions about parenting with invited guests.
Super informative!

Podcast boleh dengar kat sini -



Other than that, my personal mission right now is to lose weight (and this is something i don't share anywhere else bahaha!).
Not because i want to fit in raya clothes or anything like that.
I just want my pear shaped body to look less... pear-y? I just wanna lose fat from waist down because even i get distracted by how distracting it is.
Know what i mean ke? #peargirlsproblem T_T

Whenever we go out, I always ask my husband:
"Yang, my bu** jiggling ke?"
and then jalan depan dia so that he can check it out for me.

And he'll always say:
"Yup". 
Sometimes, he 'encourage' me even further by saying:
"Your bu** memang selalu jiggle kot"

It's like, no matter how loose my clothing is, it will always be obvious, and i really hate that!
What's the point kita beli baju besar besar, keep wasting money, if my backside don't wanna control itself kan. I punya la nak jaga aurat, tapi si bonbon ni taknak berhijrah lagi. So annoying! >.<

Since i cannot afford liposuction (yes, i considered it! bahahaha!!) and gym and personal trainer and whatever online coaching, so i have to workout.
And being a pear shape, memang bottom half ni la paling susaaaaaahhhh nak turun. 

But nevermind. If other people could do it, i should be able too.
I've been controlling my diet too and alhamdulillah ok la, boleh control lagi.

Now it's cardio + workouts.
Doakan ek i boleh lose weight so that i can cover my aurat better! (and be healthier!)
InshaAllah =')

Hehe!
You have #peargirlsproblem gak ke?
If you have succeeded getting rid of lower half punya fat, please please advise me on how you did it!

Thank you so much T_T
I hope you all lepas ni jangan la judge my bonbon ek..
Doakan dia berhijrah. Hehehehhee =p


Tuesday, December 26, 2017

My first Weekly Vlog!

I've stopped making youtube videos couple of years ago because of these reasons:
1. I got married. I didn't want to give people some 'ammo' to diss my husband, saying he doesn't "didik bini dia". 
2. I got comments like "kesian bapak dia" and stuff, and those comments yang actually made me reflect on #1.
3. I got lazy too. Recording wasn't as easy as it is now. Dulu camera takde flip screen. Many times i shot videos that were out of focus and tak dengar, so i gave up. Bahahahaha =p
4. Editting pun payah dulu. Now there're more friendlier softwares. So yeah.


After so long, and 2 kids later, baru i rasa macam "this isn't going to be as hard as before. Jom cuba balik?".

I recently start making short videos on instagram (#ummipeliks) and i felt like i can have fun doing it now. 

And then i got a new camera sebab my old one dirosakkan (ehem.. ada orang tu hempas kan bag where i put my camera in.. habis rosak langsung camera tu.. sayang), and i like how the camera punya video quality. It's an EOS M6, in case you're wondering.

So then, i began shooting some shots and then got inspired to make a weekly vlog, because daily is too crazy and most likely be boring.
Here it is!



Now i make videos with more care & love (sebab it involves my family) and like i said, it's easier now hehe!

Btw, in case juga, i edit my video with Filmora on computer.

I don't know how to end this.
So bye!

PS: What should i call my weekly vlog? 

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

#UnitedMomsClub : Autism

Assalamualaikum & what is up!

So we've made 3 parts for our podcast talking about Autism with our friend and guest, Aishah Amin.

Just a lil bit of background, Aishah's eldest son is moderately autistic. And so we discussed and try to understand more about children of the spectrum.

Nowadays, alhamdulillah the exposure and awareness of disorders like autistic, down syndrome, ADHD, Asperger, even eating disorder, etc are good as compared to like, 5 years ago.
Serious.

I've seen some people having meltdown in public and dulu, orang selalu ingatkan the parents macam tak reti ajar anak kinda thing.. Now, it's so different! People who are understanding offers help to the parents, give kind words and are more patient. There's even a cafe called The Autism Cafe Project!
Check that out heeeeerrreeeee!

I don't know if you remember iklan raya 2017 but I bet you watched it too, sebab ni iklan raya kot. And iklan raya, you know la how touching gila iklan masa raya!! Haha!
Kalau lupa, nah.
Please refresh your memory =p



Amazing kan =')

I have the highest respect for parents with special children =')

Talking to Aishah about autism really did made me understand so much about autism, eventhough we were only touching the surface. She was a lecturer so tu yang dia pandai convey her knowledge & experience!
I really urge you to listen to our 3 episodes on it and hopefully it will make you respect, understand, and be kind to people who are different and special, and inshaAllah know what to do when we see people who needs help.

Who knows, sometimes even the smallest of gestures like offering tissue, or a smile, can give such relief to others who are distressed and can even make them feel stronger and patient.

So come and have a listen if you haven't already!
Episode 11, 12 & 13 k! =D



So as usual,
my awkward sign off,
Bye!

Friday, November 24, 2017

Loneliness is Good

So being a mom contains a lot of fun (and difficulty and challenges and cleaning and wiping and trying to understand what is going on with your kids) discoveries about the upbringing of our kids.

When i first started being a housewife, i felt super deprived.
I was deprived of my social needs.
For many years i have been surrounded by people and suddenly, i was alone with a weeping child and it was lonely.

I'm lucky and grateful that i live near to my parent's house which means my only socialising activities were around my mom. But still. I felt left out of my own circle.

Friends around me started talking about stuff that i gradually couldn't catch up with, and there were times i just listen and pretend to be part of something.

Lama lama, i just gave up.
I hate pretending and i hate feeling like i "need" to belong.

I belong to me.
I should be happy with me.
And my family, of course. Especially my kids, since i'm with them 24-7.

So i started on my own path away from my people.
Walking alone and facing my problems as alone as i could, and keeping all the stories to myself.

What i realised now after all these years, is that this is Allah's way of keeping me away from things i were participating in:
Gossiping
Bad mouthing
Unnecessary talking

I still have to control on my word vomit, but the big part was staying away from it.

If you're feeling lonely, left out and perhaps irrelevant, know that it's the only way we can learn to control ourselves.
If Allah doesn't present this "loneliness" to us, we probably gain more sins (nauzubillah min zalik), so maybe loneliness is not so bad!


Being by ourselves with our own thoughts, actions and words in control, it allows us to be who we truly are.

Don't be afraid of loneliness.

Accept it, and use it to be a better person.
InshaAllah =)

Cue lagu BSB =p
Hehehee!



Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Our Melbourne Holiday + Top 4 Places to Visit with Kids In Melbourne

So, i thought i shouldn't blog about this holiday trip because i already spammed so much of the photos on my instagram.

But then... other than people's requests for me to blog about the places we went to, i thought my kids should be able to read about it too, you know, in case instagram would be obsolete during their time.
(Can that happen?)
(I mean.. It kinda happened to Myspace & Friendster)
(I used to blog on those)
(Then hilang)
(So maybe....this will too?)
(Tapi macam tak kot sebab dia link kat google)

WAHAHA! Off topic meta dehhh. Hu aloh.

So Melbourne isn't exactly the most happening place on earth. It's just a chilling place. A place that isn't busy and bustling, not exactly cultured (as in, no cultural traditions of sorts i think), and it's just a city. Full of young and nice people and coffee shops.

But first!
What was the flight like with 2 kids for 8 hours?
It was super uncomfortable for me sebab Isaac had to sit with me and he wouldn't sit still. He doesn't run around much too, but he climbs everywhere!
He'd climb to the neighbour (nasib it's my mom) and climb over the seat to the back (nasib my husband) and he wouldn't sleep so he cried so much (sebab nak tido tapi takleh), until a stewardess had to ask me (politely) to take isaac away for a while because many passengers were "disturbed" by his cries.
It was a night flight.

I pun dah la penat, pastu budak meragam. Memang lagi extra penat tapi what to do? I pun want people to be comfortable.
So bawak la dia berjalan dalam airplane. Which is not easy sebab space berjalan kecik and people are moving up and down to the toilet haha!

Oh well.

 Alhamdulillah sampai gak!

Sampai tu, terus naik skybus to my brother's apartment.
And i terus suruh the kids mandi because they stink! =p

We didn't do much the whole first day because we were all so tired (especially me, coz i didn't get much sleep!), but we did walked around our area.

Here are the top 3 places (+1 souvenir shopping) we went!

MELBOURNE ZOO

I knew we had to go to the zoo.
Nay, we MUST go to the zoo.
Nay, we HAVE TO, WAJIB, NEED to go to the zoo.

Because Australia has the weirdest animals in the world! Cute ones la i mean.
They have Koala bear, Kangaroo, Wombat, and Platypus!


Ummi bergaya tengok map kan =p


Isaac is the kind who loves soft toys.
He cuddles.
And he is cuddly too.
Good combo!



When we saw the kangaroos, Isaac was immediately a kangaroo-keeper.
He fed them, he stroked them, and stepped on their tails! 
We shouldn't.
And he also picked up their poops!
I was disgusted but the keeper said that it's a clean poop because they eat veges.

...
I'm like, yeah.
When my kids were babies and only had milk, i never saw their poop as being clean.

But oh well.
Who am i to burst someone's bubble kan. =p

Here's a family photo where all of us looked kind of.. off.

So the story here (Nadrah, this part is about you) is, Nadrah was running around at the cafe port where we were having our lunch, oh they had vege nasi goreng! Literally, nasi goreng! Haha! Kitorang macam "mesti ramai malaysian datang sini kot".

So Nadrah was running around chasing the pigeons, and we all told her to stop running around and then true enough, she fell and scraped her knee.

She cried, as LOUD as she could, because let's face it. It's not a cry if only the family hears it. The whole world needed to know she was in pain hahahaha!

She was straight up wailing like "WAAAHHHHHH WAAAHHHHHHHH WAAAHHHHH!", seriously from the stomach.
I did the typical asian mom move.
I ignored her, not before i told her "padan muka. I told you!"

Good thing we had an extra stroller with us! She just sat there the whole time after that. When we went to  see the kangaroos, she didn't want to get off the stroller even and her dad had to carry her in a 'special' way so that she didn't have to straighten her legs. So you bet! She didn't even touch the kangaroos! Hahaha!

The keepers were kind enough to call for a first aid to help patch up Nadrah. So a guy by the name of Gary came over to us in a tricycle with all the ubats, but Nadrah simply refused to let him touch her scraped knees.
And she wailed.
We were in front of the baboon's cage, and when she wailed, the baboons wailed with her.
I did the asian move again, and fled the scene. Biar my husband handle her sebab i just cannot. Haha! =p

After the kangaroos, we went around to see more animals. Isaac was having fun looking at them animals, and even chased pigeons, on approved locations.

I think we were there for around 3 hours. It was nice and i loved it, even with Nadrah's drama. =)


MELBOURNE MUSEUM (& Brighton Beach, for pictures)

I purposely chose to go to the museum because of the Pauline Gandel Children's Gallery!
It's super cool for the kids!

The whole museum is already cool too!









The kids had loads of fun here! I think we only browsed through the museum for 10 minutes kot and spent the other hour plus at the kids' section ni =)

So glad to see Isaac being very adventurous at his age! Seronok tengok dia main main =)

After the museum, we went to eat and headed to Brighton Beach.
Too bad masa ni our phones died, so we didn't get that many photos..





It was super windy yang sejuk gila, and guess what?
Nadrah didn't want to wear her jacket.

She was crying all over the beach until finally she agreed to stay in the car with Isaac and my bro.
Isaac was ok at first, but we could see that he wasn't feelin' it. It was too cold for him.
Kesian budak budak ni. huhu..

I know i should be editting the pics before posting them here.. I'm too lazy. Bahahaha =p

There's nothing much to do at the beach. 
Take pics je. So... we didn't have anything else to do so we just went back.
But we did stop by the library =)

Just to feed these bebehs

Nadrah dah good mood balik because she had her snoring fest in the car.

Ececeh posing!


SEA LIFE AQUARIUM 


Amboi posing!
Hehe!

Finally, we took the tram to go to the aquarium.
And the kids were sleeping in their strollers....
I don't recommend people with strollers to ride the tram, but then if you have to, you can =)
It's just a bit crammed.



It's a fake one, don't worry.
The real one was so huge i felt like crying. Serious!

I think the highlight of the aquarium are the penguins.





To be honest, the aquarium ni nothing spectacular. Other than the penguins, everything else is like Aquaria in KLCC. And the tickets to the sea life aquarium ni bapak mahal!
Nak nangis bila bayar.. It's like $50++ for adults, and kids $30++
T_T

So yeah.

VICTORIA MARKET

This is a place to get souvenirs and food stuff.
I don't think they're cheap, but ok la.
Dapat la a few stuff for my families.
The food though.. It's GOOD!


We had this mussels in some kind of tom yam-ish kuah, and it was super delicious!
Sampai terliur ok while typing this. Haha!

As usual, when we walked around, Nadrah saw this puppy toy thing which barks and moves, and she wanted it.
So ok la, beli.
And then she & Isaac fought for it.... 

Here, Nadrah was telling me how she's disappointed that the dog doesn't follow her.
Like a real dog.
And i had to explain to her that we can't have pets.
Because our condo doesn't allow it.
(and because i do not want to take care of it for you)
(you want pets, you get it when you don't live with me k?)
(when you're like... 25?)

We basically didn't want to do much that day, so we walked around the city and explore.
That's my kind of activity actually =p
I loooooveeee people-watching.
It's just my way of seeing how people really live differently, in different countries, different cultures, different climate. It's super interesting! =p



But alas..

The only people watching i get, was watching Isaac and Nadrah.
=p

I think we missed a lot of other places. I know people have recommended a lot of food places to go like HIYC? was it? I forgot. Even puffing billy something. But with kids, it's all up to our capability to be patient with them. Haha!
Seriously though. Because we're walking mostly, and pushing them on strollers, and then diaper change (for isaac) and pujuk-ing nadrah, and getting them to eat properly, that requires a lot of energy & patience. 
Pastu nak solat lagi. So kena ikut la macam mana.

I had fun though!
It has been a while since husband & i did something with the kids together. Alhamdulillah dapat seminggu terus!
It wasn't about the places we went to in the end, but the time spent as a family. I really really appreciate that =')

So here's a video i made to sum it up!
Just my kids though hehehe..



Supernovalova,
Mars with awkward goodbyes.