Tips keje kawen: The small things

Assalamualaikum!


I know i should be sleeping right now, since i have to wake up and masak untuk sahur.
How is Ramadhan for you all so far?
Hopefully, it's awesome!

For me though, i tengah berusaha nak tukar gear. Dapat puasa sehari je pastu.. well..

Anyway,
recently alhamdulillah, my sil dah berkahwin dengan kasih sayang dia dan dua dua pun dah berPDA secara halal. muahahhaa!
bila baru kahwin ni, biasa la kan, honeymoon phase tak terhingga. Sampai lah mengandung. Pastu beranak. Setiap phase ada je la kang drama comedy horror masing masing.

As for me and hubs, alhamdulillah, nak masuk third year ni, kita macam whatever je.
Tapi yang best nya, kita best friends forever.
And he's the best friend that pays for everything. INCLUDING MY LASIK BAHAHAHAHA!!
nanti i akan share pasal lasik sebab seriously, tempat i buat tu murah ok!

Ok,
so pasal wedding ni. I wanted to share since the time i got married, which was in 2012/2013 camtu tapi terlupa sangat!
and bila this time sil nak kahwin, i did the belakang tabir job, baru teringat the mistakes we did in the past, and forgot to bring forward.
Hence this blogpost.

Untuk remind diri sendiri dan juga untuk para pembaca.
Seriously, benda ni la paling selalu di-repeat-peat-peat-peat, i, i love you like a love song beybi.

ehem.

Ok ok!

The things we terlepas pandang were the small things, tapi ada effect.

1. Bila buat majlis pastu ada makan makan, please letak signage kat table yang nak reserve untuk rombongan belah laki. Biasanya bila nikah kan, rombongan pompuan dah datang dulu kan, pastu baru rombongan laki. So, letak la "RESERVED FOR GROOM'S FAMILY" ataupun "COP UNTUK KELUARGA PENGANTIN LAKI" dan sewaktu dengannya. The last thing you wanna have is people complaining they don't have places to sit, and they're your in-laws. Not a good impression la..

2. Best to have someone that will control the flow of the wedding. contohnya MC ataupun ketua kelas. Whatever la. sebab kena ada someone yang ada thorough idea on what happens after nikah, after makan, etc etc. sometimes bila takde orang yang control ni, flow jadi entahpape, takut nanti serabut sangat. nanti jadi camni:

A: Eh sekarang buat apa ek?
B: Nak panggil pengantin turun ke ni? Imam dah duduk sini dah.
A: Tapi dia tak bagi signal pun.
B: Oh dia akan kasi signal ke?
A: Eh ye ke?
B: Ko pehal?

kan dah serabut.

3. Briefing dengan photographers/videographers. since they're the ones yang akan berclick2 gambar dan sebagainya, means they have the power to control whose turn to take pictures and when. my suggestion is, utamakan keluarga dulu. Ibu bapa, in laws, aunties and uncles, cousins, atuk nenek, moyang, pastu baru kawan. last time masa my reception, tak dapek tangkap gambar ngan tokwan, my cousins, aunts and uncles... we were swarmed by people we didn't know and by the time nak bergambar ngan family, diorang dah balik.. sedih ='( kalau bukan photographers/videographers, best to have an MC or someone la yang boleh buatkan this task. coz seriously, it's not about looking pretty/handsome in the pics, but about who were there to celebrate us and of course, the memories.

4. Waktu solat. i think ni most important. alhamdulillah i made it a point that everything must work around solat times. masa nikah tu, kitorang sempat pause majlis and solat zohor dulu, pastu sambung balik majlis. masa reception, i buat makeup like sedekat boleh dengan waktu maghrib so that boleh tahan wudhu'. i don't trust myself nak tahan lama lama. kita ni kuat makan pedas pastu suka minum teh tarik, maka angin pun banyak muahahahaahaahaa (tmi). so lepas makeup je terus solat. lega sikit la like that kan. =p

5. TUPPERWARES! masa nikah dulu, sebab kat rumah, so extra food dari caterers kita amik je. tak terfikir lak masa reception tu nak bawak tupperwares kan.. so the extra food tu tak dapat nak bawak balik sebab takde bekas ='( sayang sangat. sebab with the extra food, boleh bagi bagi orang. neighbours ke, rumah amal ke, you know. at least tak terbazir gitu je. and usually caterers won't provide tupperwares. just to be safe, bawak la apa apa bekas yang ada. periuk ke mangkuk tingkat ke.

6. BOXES! for the extra doorgifts or whatever gifts. you paid so much for that and put a lot of thought and effort into it, you might as well take them when there're extra and people leaving them behind.

7. ok, ni i pun rasa very very important. right after dah nikah tu, all the hantaran stuff yang mahal mahal, like jewelries, money, watches, gadgets, anything and everything valuable, TAKE THEM AND LOCK THEM SOMEWHERE SAFE! you can leave the dulangs, but the stuff, seriously, store them away ASAP! dah banyak case orang kena rompak kat majlis perkahwinan ni. alhamdulillah we did this, so it's best to keep the awareness fresh. again, ni kena rely on the ketua kelas or whatever you call it. biasanya pengantin's families akan too busy, so takut benda ni terlepas pandang pastu kang... semua ternganga sebab hantaran yilek. gone. nanes berjemaah la jawabnya.

8. kalau buat majlis nikah/bersanding kat rumah, LOCK YOUR ROOM DOORS. last time masa kita kawen, i remember seeing kids wondering around our rooms. terkejut haku. bukan apa, tapi it's not appropriate la kan.. ni kids. cuba kalau stranger mana entah yang pura pura to be part of the wedding tapi sebenarnya pencuri. kan dahhhhh!

9. get extra tables and chairs. whether majlis buat kat rumah ataupun dewan, always have extra tables and chairs. contohnya bajet 100 orang datang, so ada 10 meja yang muat 10 orang. tapi standby la meja 2 biji dan kerusi. meja kerusi yang tak fancy pun takpe. sebab it's quite common to have wedding crashers. and sometimes at weddings yang ada RSVP and planned seats pun, orang yang tak return rsvp suddenly show up, orang yang kata datang berdua tiba tiba datang berlima, orang yang kata datang tiba tiba tak datang. so, dari nak bergaduh, menghalau, menyakitkan hati orang, just be prepared. consequences of their actions takyah nak fikir. let Allah handle it.


So far, that's all i could squeeze out of my brain and i hope they're helpful.
if you have more you wanna add to this, share them at the comment section! in sha Allah bermanfaat untuk bakal pengantin & families.
the whole point of this post is to help you all reduce wastage, increase happiness and barakah, and be prepared for what's coming.
keje kawen ni bukan senang ye. even the simplest ones also have problems.

all the best ya kepada mereka yang on the way nak kahwin! eventhough we all say "It's not about the wedding, it's the marriage", but seriously, we spent money for the wedding! might as well make people and ourselves be satisfied with the whole thing kan. baru worth it. =)

ok la.
itu saja!

assalamualaikum, tak jawab dosa, kalau jawab sayang Allah. amboi.

sorry atin.. ni je gambar proper kitorang and i don't wanna take photos from you sebab malas nak mintak permission wahahahaaaaa =p

(btw dia tengah makan anggur)

love you atin!