this manic, i don't know how it suddenly blossomed into our lives, but now girls everywhere are swooning over the 'fairytale' wedding.
remember what's-her-name? anak Naza tu.. (in case you haven't, watch it here)
remember how the video circulated in Facebook and the girls were like "omgadahh cantiknya wedding ni", "baby, i nak wedding camni", "sooooo romantic wannn ahhh, i waaaaant!", etc etc?
oh and there were others that went "apa nak jadi dengan orang melayu, nak follow follow budaya mat salleh", "gila apa ke pompuan ni", "8million?!?! lebih baik derma duit tu kat Palestine", etc etc.
whichever your reaction was, i tak kisah, but no doubt you all watched the wedding video.
and more and more videos of that 'perfect-fairytale-romantic' wedding are circulating. and honestly, i nak muntah.
ok fine, they ARE freaking beautiful and DUHH it looks perfect. but i can't help but smirk at these videos.
it's like a showcase of wealth!
i've been to soooo many weddings, and have been bridesmaid to most, so i know i am credible to talk about this, thank you very much!
weddings don't have to be so elaborate, so expensive, so extravaganza, so glamorous and so over-the-top, because wedding is just an event for friends and family to celebrate the union of a man and a lady. it's just the time to "show off", kan? ala, i'm a girl. i know.
so what if you can't afford to have men in skirts to carry you on tilam to bersiram? so what if you can't have a hall made of roses? so what if your wedding is simple and small? so what if you don't wear designer dresses?
it isn't about how it would look on you and your family if it's small. it's you, isn't it?
it's how you would feel about your wedding.
if you're worried people would say "kesiannya, wedding kecil je", or "tak cukup budget kot", or "kedekut siol", etc etc.. i say THE HECK WITH THEM!!
it's our wedding and if we love our family, love our future partner and their family, love our friends, then all that talk is not going to affect you.
go and celebrate being an official Mr or Mrs! not celebrate being rich or showing it off.
memang la nak show off, but i'd rather show off the L.O.V.E than showing off the moolah loaned from the bank.
think realistically. wedding is meant to be once in a lifetime. make it matter! don't make it LOOK like it matter. the videos were made beautifully (kudos to videographers!), but in reality, its different. very very different.
so if you want a perfect, fairytale wedding, you can, but don't put these people as a benchmark. it's not a competition! it's not a trend!
make it your fairytale, not by wealth, but by (as corny as this sounds) love.
and make your future wedding a fairytale in reality, not just in videos and photos.