Personal view on LGBT

Assalamualaikum!

I think almost all famous shows i've been watching on Netflix & Hulu, mesti ada a hint of gayness.

Gay dude being all diva, lesbian couple, y'know?

It's like they're making sure all shows have some element of LGBT so that it'll seem normal for us.

Just the other day, my cousin and i were talking about it while our kids were playing in my house. The conversation sparked because of the reality show "I am Cait", about Caitlyn Jenner.

In case some of you don't know, it's the kardashians' stepdad and Kendall & Kylie Jenner's dad, Bruce Jenner, an ex-olympian runner, who turned himself into a woman.

It was last year when he/she suddenly became the talk of all variety/entertainment medias.

I honestly couldn't care less about the kardashians let alone the jenners, but without knowing how, i got sucked up into the news.

See how media make us care about things are not even worth our braincells!

So anyway, my cousin and i were talking about he/she, and i admitted that i don't know how i should react to transgenders. The pondans, the pengkids, i've met nice ones, and i've befriended some pengkids too in the past.

I have nothing against them, but i know i shouldn't be encouraging too.

Then there're these people who say "It's between me & God", "i was born this way", or whatever, well.. Yeah. It is between them and God, but we can't just let them think it's not in their power to change.

Because we all have this fight with nafsu.

I do. I've got lots of fights with myself! It's like a tag-team wrestling match, where i'm alone on one side, and all my nafsu on the other and they're changing places but sometimes they come 2 at a time. We win some fights, we lose some. But no matter what, the fight must go on. We'll get a break once in a while though, don't worry. Allah is Kind =)

Regardless of our level of piety, we all have battles with our inner demons.

No one's perfect but that doesn't mean we won't learn from our mistakes. We can continue becoming a better person, that's for sure.

Now, with the western media through movies, tv shows, music and social medias, they will make LGBT seem interesting or a trend, who knows kan. I've been wondering how i'd explain to my kids when LGBT would be a norm since it's becoming so even now..

But all i have for now is: 

These people are struggling with their sexual orientation and identity, and all of us who don't have that to go through should be grateful. Allah tutupkan aib luaran kita, you know? We all sin differently. Fitnah is a sin, gossiping, lying, cheating, stealing, zina - just because there's no physical proof that anyone do them, doesn't mean they're non-existent. So who are we to judge? Instead, what we can do is pray to Allah to make it easy for them and give them the strength and hidayah.

That's really what we should pray for everyone.

It's not a good speech or whatever, i know heheee.

Oh well.

I wish you all the best, my dear readers.

We all have wrestling matches within us and that's where good company always help. =)

Our friends and families are usually our supporter, so if you can choose your company, choose well.

And may Allah give us victories in our fights, may He provide us good people, and help us on the road to Jannah.

InshaAllah.

Amiiiin

=)

*LGBT = lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender

Say "Peace" is all.

Assalamualaikum,


I've been reading this book about making and breaking habits (though i won't recommend it to people this particular book, only because i think the writer is... not so successful at her own experiments. There's nothing wrong with that. Except it makes me not take her seriously. ANYWAY.)

I've been reading this book, and i thought of making new habits to replace old nonbeneficial ones, like scrolling through my phone, wondering what i should do.
Instead of just flipping the homescreen searching for something interesting to look for, i thought that i should blog more. Try....daily? Ehehehhh.. InshaAllah, daily posts. I CAN DO DIZ!


So here's what i really want to share.

I was reading my Quran translation book when i saw this ayat:

[We know the Prophet's words], "My Lord, truly these are people who do not believe,"

so turn away from them and say "Peace": they will come to know.

Surah Al-Zukhruf, ayat 88-89.

Cool gila.

Once upon a time, i felt the need to make people closest to me to change with me.
So selfish of me. It's just that, at that time, i wanted them to not be how i used to be - ignorant and arrogant, thinking i know everything that needs to be known. But then, what i thought was dakwah, was actually me pestering them and unintentionally belittle them.

Preaching/dakwah really really requires knowledge in psychology. It's like being a salesman that doesn't make a customer rimas, but makes them want to come back for more. Ha. Amacam. Haha!

When it comes to preaching, i really think that it should start with us.
We preach to ourselves first and foremost.

I remember a saying something like "what you don't like in others reflects what you are".
Basically, if i don't like a person who brags, that means i brag too. Something like that la.
Cermin diri sendiri dulu sebelum tegur. Nak tegur boleh. Serious boleh. Tapi kena ada kesedaran yang kita pun kekurangan.
Contohnya: si A tak suka si B sebab dia eksyen, suka share gambar barang kemas dia kat instagram. Pastu si A nak tegur si B. Tapi dia selidik diri dulu, kot kot dia ni pun eksyen. Tengok tengok dia ada la gak eksyen, tapi dalam bentuk lain. Suka eksyen pasal anak ke, etc. Dengan kesedaran si A yang dia ni pun ada penyakit hati, dia tegur si B, tapi dengan cara yang boleh si A & si B terima.
Means, tegur others like how you want to be ditegur.

Make sense kan?

Ok, so back to the ayat atas tadi.
Let's say even with the knowledge of our flaws and our efforts to change ourselves, or let's say we've succeeded in changing ourselves, then we share that knowledge with someone close with much tact and mannerism, ikhlas and respect, sebaik-baiknya lah!
Unfortunately, that person did not respond well. Either they held a grudge on us or leave us completely, all we have to do is turn away and say "Peace", because believe me, they will come to know.

Allah's timing is always right, for everyone. We do not need to pressure or stress out if a person doesn't change or accept advice immediately.
InshaAllah - everything is with Allah's permission kan.

So, peace je.

=)

Be loyal and obedient to Allah

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas RA:

Once i was behind the Prophet SAW and he said: "O boy, i will teach you a few words:

1. Be loyal and obedient to Allah (worship Him Alone), remember Him always, obey His Orders. He will save you from every evil and will take care of you in all the spheres of life.

2. Be loyal and obedient to Allah, you will find Him near (in front of you), i.e. He will respond to your requests.

3. If you ask, ask Allah.

4. If you seek help, seek help from Allah.

5. Know that if all the people get together in order to benefit you with something, they will not be able to benefit you in anything except what Allah has decreed for you. And if they all get together in order to harm you with something, they will not be able to harm you in anything except what Allah has decreed for you.

The pens have stopped writings [Divine (Allah's) Preordainments]. And (the ink over) the papers (Book of Decrees) have dried."

Hadith from Sahih Al-Tirmidhi