tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post3445695169668935354..comments2024-03-19T21:37:54.988+08:00Comments on Maria Elena: Family vs Friends vs What i Really Want to DoMaria Elena Zarulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02987234257712852363noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-32393131966602637072020-08-25T17:22:01.930+08:002020-08-25T17:22:01.930+08:00Thanks, for providing good Information to communit...Thanks, for providing good Information to community…<br /><br /><a href="https://www.sinelogix.com/services/php-development.html" rel="nofollow">Php Web Development Company Bangalore</a> | <a href="https://www.sinelogix.com" rel="nofollow">Ecommerce Website Designer India </a> | <a href="http://www.sinelogix.com/services/internet-marketing.html" rel="nofollow">Internet Marketing Company in Bangalore</a> | <a href="https://www.sinelogix.com/" rel="nofollow">Bangalore Ecommerce Development Company</a>Sinelogixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753447067548332551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-37233266649047330392017-08-12T21:41:53.168+08:002017-08-12T21:41:53.168+08:00sama la sis..
1st baby mmg rase macam takde life g...sama la sis..<br />1st baby mmg rase macam takde life gila..<br />kawan tak ada..parents jauh, and at that time PJJ dengan husband..<br /><br />hidup tunggang terbalik..<br />but now dah anak 2 rasanya dah boleh urus dengan lebih baik..<br />maybe kawan-kawan pun dah ada anak. So bila keluar dengan dieorang semua akan help each other urus anak masing-masing..<br /><br />but this is it. jd parents mmg penat. memang kena banyak berkorban. mak kata ni semua sekejap je. Bila dorang dah besar, kita lonely jugak. Macam sekarang..hihieanaaziz1234https://www.blogger.com/profile/15088364545289774308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-73579032202498511712017-08-09T23:15:25.754+08:002017-08-09T23:15:25.754+08:00hi kak maria, im married but i dont have a child y...hi kak maria, im married but i dont have a child yet. what i write is not based on experience but rather books and tv show about parenting. I love reading about parenting and children psychology. Here is what I found<br /><br />1) Both Nadrah and Isaac are 2 very different children and they have different need. Nadrah is at the phase where she has superego, she wants to do things on her own. The more you say 'No' the more she creates reasons 'why should I'. At this age, her motor development (especially big muscles) is growing , and that's why she loves to go around. And at this age too, she learns by example, it doesnt work no matter how many times you said 'No's' 'Don'ts'. Rather than ask her to do this and that, try to clean the mess together with her. No you dont do this alone, ajak dia kemas sekali for every mess she did. The next time, when she's creating mess, tgh sepah2kan, warn her, she must clean the mess, or 'time out'. Time out means, isolate the child, may be in a corner for 5 min, or take one of her fav toy (tell her if she behave, you will give it back). Nadrah is at age, she can think already what kind of behaviour is acceptable. But before you do this, you must warn her. During the time out, talk to her eyes, same eye level that you means business. Waktu ni kena tegas. Or she will find ways to manipulate you. After the time out, you explain again what is acceptable. And after that if she's doing good, puji dia.<br /><br />2) Try to go out with Nadrah. Only both of you (at this time you can leave Isaac with ur mom). Talk to her, ask her what she likes and dislike. Do activities that she loves. Give your full attention to her at that time. Do this few times. Sometimes children throw tantrums because they cry for attention. She might feel she doesnt get all attention when Isaac is around.<br /><br />3) Lastly, this is for you kak maria. It is a fact that we need more adults at home. When you feel you can't handle the two of them, ask for help. Dont bear too much because we are humans we have our limits. Take few hours to go out and have me-time or go out with friends. It is fine.<br /><br />To know how to handle a child, you must first see from her perspective. Only then you know how. Jadi tegas untuk bentuk behaviour but must let them know too that they are loved.<br /><br />If you watch Jo Frost Extreme Parental Guidance, you'll find few situations similar to yours. and Jo Frost is a child expert, you can take few tricks and tips. Nurfarhanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09124524563131546653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-12803123614596613842017-08-03T12:43:19.661+08:002017-08-03T12:43:19.661+08:00Salam Maria,
Maybe boleh try baca maznahibrahim.c...Salam Maria,<br /><br />Maybe boleh try baca maznahibrahim.com. Pakar kaunseling kanak2 kalau tak silap dgn blog Adlil Rajiah (saatkukaupilih.blogspot.com)<br /><br />All the best ;)<br /><br />Btw, anak I pun buat perangai mcm tu juga, no worries, budak2 tgh nak membesar memang mcm tu.Niahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07733117890648269620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-86288855396196995992017-07-17T06:54:46.148+08:002017-07-17T06:54:46.148+08:00assalamualaikum kak Maria.. :)
anak saya 2 orang,...assalamualaikum kak Maria.. :)<br /><br />anak saya 2 orang, 4tahun dan 2 tahun..<br /><br />biasanya, apa yang saya buat, kalau esok nak pi kenduri ke kan, saya akan remind awal2 the kids yang esok nak pi kenduri, tempat mungkin bising, ramai orang, panas..<br />i want them to be prepared, yang keadaan tu maybe x best, not to their liking, but i need them to behave at their best.<br /><br />kalau tantrum kat mall, i dont give in to them. in fact, saya pernah tantrum balik masa kat mall. senyap terus haa. hahaha. cuma, apa yang saya buat, kalau nak anak2 bekerjasama dengan saya, saya kena offer something best la kat dyorang. dyorang suka main taman, so i would suggest that, usually. "balik dari mall, mama singgah taman, tapi kena behave, ok?" works like a charm, everytime. ;)<br /><br />hope that helps!<br /><br />Baca bahaya impetigo pada kanak2 : http://nurulatiqah.com/impetigo/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16277531953870948299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-27919949606520809152017-06-27T10:44:54.203+08:002017-06-27T10:44:54.203+08:00salam.. finally when i read this i feel i'm no...salam.. finally when i read this i feel i'm not alone�� I'm working mom with 2 kids..before this lagi strugle sebab PJJ dgn husband..saya johor dia kat kl..so my tips if want to go out explain to them first (xkisah ler diorang faham ke x��) cth nye bgtau kita nak ke mana, nak buat apa, keadaan tempat tu nanti macam mana.. sebab i believe if they can have the picture where they're going nt diorang x terkejut�� So far alhamdulilah can handle them even i'm alone..tantrum tu biasa..mmg rasa nak marah je lagi bila dah start jerit2 pukul2 tapi one thing yg saya notice marah vs marah = marah, marah vs sabar = calm.. so every time my kids nk start tantrum i'll hug n cakap baik2..ask them why they do it, what make them angry..bila cakap baik2 diorang sendri akan cry and say sorry..i believe they just want our attention and love kan��faezahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16600407031192728041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-1995871491365083622017-06-22T18:28:02.929+08:002017-06-22T18:28:02.929+08:00It's refreshing to see how you open up about y...It's refreshing to see how you open up about your struggle with the kids and all. This in a way makes all the mothers out there felt like they're not failing in becoming a mother after all. Kids can be handful sometimes and there are times where we would want to give up and cry because it was tiring and there aren't certain sets of things that you can do to make them okay. Everyday there are new struggles that you need to face and sometimes it's really hard. I pray that you'll be able to handle it better in the future kak and you know along the way it'll get better i guess ? I don't know but with Allah's will it would be insyaAllah. <br />KUIKUI Developer'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02077192935761395820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-62210961596881875762017-06-19T12:37:42.548+08:002017-06-19T12:37:42.548+08:00Assalamualaikum, hahaha ya I chant 'I love my ...Assalamualaikum, hahaha ya I chant 'I love my kids' too whenever I feel I need help menahan kesabaran. I don't know if there is any special tricks to cope, because in the end you just do... I just keep thinking to myself, this won't be long. Soon there will be no tantrum, they won't be needing me and I will be left old and lonely. It is hard,having small children and trying to make time for others too. Hang in there :) Diana Abdul Molokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13243326643382404285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-27119039904707091662017-06-18T02:12:41.369+08:002017-06-18T02:12:41.369+08:00Dearest Maria,
I don't know if you could read...Dearest Maria,<br /><br />I don't know if you could read this comment and I wish my prayers for your family reach you all the same and answered by the Almighty.<br /><br />Having trying kids are indeed a test to our mental strength. they surely drive us up the wall if we are not supported by the love and understanding of our close family.<br /><br />I don't know if my tips gonna work, but I always believe that a father's prayers for his children will easily be answered. perhaps you could persuade your husband to pray for your wisdom in handling the kids and that the children will be easily be managed. Ask him to perform late night prayers for the sake of all your children.<br /><br />When the kids are asleep, always whisper in their ears, hug them close and tell them, deep in your heart, you always pray for them to be good, soleh children. that no matter what you will always love them and pay attention if they ever need you. pray to Allah as much as you can, as sincerely as you can. "Ya Allah, these are my kids, born out of love shared between me and my husband. May they be of less trial to all those around them, and that they will grow up as those that You bless and protect from the evils of the world. I am just a mom who is clueless as to how to handle them. Let Your love for us be my guide."<br /><br />Dearest Maria, sometimes it just take a prayer at a right time. perhaps it take a lot of prayers to get it right. but if you are fervent in your prayers, and that you deeply believe in Allah's love for you, insya Allah, your children will be better over the time.<br /><br />Have faith. and perhaps, to speed matter along, do more infaq in the name of your children. perhaps half of their raya collection to be given to orphans and the needy. who knows that such simple act of faith will do wonders to you and your family.<br /><br />Uhibbuki fillah. May Allah give you strength and ease in life here and hereafter, insya Allah.shahsulonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10709439935499195799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-36098907461629406172017-06-17T12:57:04.947+08:002017-06-17T12:57:04.947+08:00Thank you all of you for your comments!
They'r...Thank you all of you for your comments!<br />They're really awesome!<br />I wish i can reply one by one huhuu..<br /><br />Thank you tau! i hope orang lain yang baca pun dapat la manfaat from all this.<br />Moga Allah bantu kita dalam parenting ni in raising amazing kids.<br />Moga kita dapat jumpa nanny yang terbaik jugak bahahaha! =p<br /><br /><3Maria Elena Zarulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02987234257712852363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-32293562711010965242017-06-16T17:21:48.137+08:002017-06-16T17:21:48.137+08:00Cubit aje nadrah tu. Hehe. OK just kidding Cubit aje nadrah tu. Hehe. OK just kidding munirah hayatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17787160292723856247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-48218694566089767222017-06-15T09:42:07.805+08:002017-06-15T09:42:07.805+08:00Hi Maria, saje nk nyibuk jgk kt cni.. I'm a ca...Hi Maria, saje nk nyibuk jgk kt cni.. I'm a career mother of 4 kids.. 2 girls 7 & 6 yo.. 2 boys 3 & 1 yo..<br />i mmg xde masa n tak terpikir nk spent ms dgn kwn2.. cos my time n my kids development time is so precious to me.. kwn2, jumpa dkt kenduri/mall say hi tanya kabar, belek ank masing2 dh besar mana then bye.. hahaha<br />most of my leisure time dgn kekwn hanyalah online.. and i love n prefer that way.. whatsapp/fb/ig.. dgn jiran sebelah umah pon berfb ok.. cos its convenient, nk borak tepi pagar anak asik melaung dr dalam umah so kita sambung sembang kt wasap la ye.. huhu..byk cara kita nk keep in touch dgn kekwn sebenanye.. its depends on who ur friends are.. mcm my bffs kebyknnye pon same mcm i.. anak berderet so prefer jumpa2 time raya je.. tahun ni i dtg umh u tahun depan u dtg umah i.. umah u sepah, umah i pon same... who cares.. time biase2 borak online tny khabar sudah.. nk hangout mmg kitorg sama2 tak sanggup.. <br />me time.. i think im lucky sbb hb sanggup berkorban utk realisasikn my me time sekali sebulan or semgu dua skali.. n kdg2 me n hb amik cuti time hari kerja utk buat ape yg kitorg suka, anta anak2 sekolah/nurseri.. kalau nk lepak ngan kwn2 pon bole tp i prefer lepak ngan my bff aka my hb.. tgok muvi, main ice skate.. buat bende2 yg xbole buat ms anak2 ada..<br />i think u shud try the same.. if perlu anta ank u kt nursery for 1 day pon why not kan? <br />yg penting we as parent should keep ourself sane n happy sbb in the end anak2 akan thankful sbb umur kita panjang bila kita tak stress..bole gtu? heheTinKerBieNehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10490443920423945849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-52228851015025173542017-06-15T00:01:06.814+08:002017-06-15T00:01:06.814+08:00Wahhh panjangnyaa mak mak punya comments. I am als...Wahhh panjangnyaa mak mak punya comments. I am also a mak. My words will be, you are not alone mothers! Give yourself a ME time kak Maria. We need help. We need our time 5 minit pun jadi just to restore our sanity, yes.Melda Ahmadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00750868105827675448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-39254111829992715652017-06-14T23:34:51.876+08:002017-06-14T23:34:51.876+08:00Salam Mommy Maria, tq for this post which made me ...Salam Mommy Maria, tq for this post which made me realise that I am not alone. By reading all the comments, I knew we as a mom expect our kids at their best behavior. Bila yg kita expect tak menjadi, tu la time rasa frust sgt & mula lah stress. Im a working mom, and yes masa kat ofis je lah me time. Bila balik tu dah set piker nak main dgn anak. Tp bila balik je tgk anak tantrum, dgn kita sekali nk nangis rasa. But still, the guilt is always there, since ada anak mmg elakkan nk balik lmbt, jumpa kawan lepas office hour ke. Sbb rasa dh berjam2 tinggal anak kan. But I really think that mommy needs me time, esp housewife. Once a week ke at least? Good luck mommy :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01431244907231718113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-79256912550786679362017-06-14T23:00:22.560+08:002017-06-14T23:00:22.560+08:00Don't feel guilty about wanting a babysitter o...Don't feel guilty about wanting a babysitter or needing a break from the kids to do your own thing. I used to think i could do it all as a mom, i was determined to one of those supermom who juggle everything without breaking a sweat. Jokes on me la. What a ridiculous idea lol. Dah la i ni a bit of a control freak pulak tu, mana tak stress. I realized i was becoming an unpleasant mother and wife because I wasn't taking care of myself well. I started not feeling guilty about wanting to do what i want like meeting friends, going out with them for a few hours, even having facials and mani pedis. Talked to hubs about parenting being a 50-50 job not just a mom's job, really relying/trusting on my partner to help out with kid/house stuff, got a reliable babysitter (alhamdulillah) and just stopped feeling too guilty about going out with friends or sometimes just having the house all to myself not doing anything at all, just chilling. It really helped made me feel at peace and when it was time to pick up the kid, i was a happier, patient mom. Mind you, it's still an everyday struggle, with or without me time. Seems like there's always ups and downs. But if I wasn't taking care of myself better, i would have hurt my kid's/hubs feelings which in turn would make me feel like a failure and it's just gonna be a downward spiral.<br /><br />Point is, maybe it would seem that it's a selfish thing to do to put yorself first, but remember that you are taking care of yourself to be able to take care of others better. So, don't be too hard on yourself, mom. ;) just go and have that coffee with friends that you deserve.lolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00755296848226319129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-89313636138108039212017-06-14T16:55:13.320+08:002017-06-14T16:55:13.320+08:00Assalam maria. Kte faced problem yg sme. Part yg u...Assalam maria. Kte faced problem yg sme. Part yg u ckp. Ur husband n u pndg each other tgk asl ank org lain rilek jje. Anak kite mcm spiderman da tu mmg sme la kite. Selalu pelik asl anak org lain bapak behave mcm ank patung. Hahahaha. Btw. Im not d best person to give advice to what i practiced is that. To never feel sorry to have ur own time. Dont feel sorry to klua skjap n hangout. Its ok. Mmg faham sgt perasan sebersalah giler mntk parent jage anak jap kan. Or mntk sesiapa jage jap. Tp jgn feel sorry to have ur own time. K. Amek je mase. Then. D next day. Jadi blk mommyzilla. Hee. Sbb rasenye mmg "hectic" tu xleh buat apa. Smntara nk tgg diorg faham kn... mmg kne sabau yoolah. N kalau klua. Jgn rase malu kalau diorg buat bnde merepek. I always told myself. "Lantak la korg nk pndg ak or anak ak cmne. Korg x faham" sbb eventually. Org yg lalu masalah yg sme dgn kite akan snyum tgk kite sbb diorg faham. Hee. Hope mmbntu. ☺SLIM.YAKIN.CANTIKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17444825194912840885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-8242430150254187422017-06-14T16:23:59.726+08:002017-06-14T16:23:59.726+08:00Kak Maria, I don't know if this can help.. My ...Kak Maria, I don't know if this can help.. My daughter only throwing tantrums kat rumah, If bawa keluar, dia sgt2 behave! so kalau dia ngamuk, mmg kitorg akan keluar jalan2. Bahaha maybe time peknen suka keluar jalan2 shopping. Even masa dia kecik pun rajin dia bawa jalan2.. If dia nangis, tak terus pujuk, mmg biar dlm 5-10 minit.. pujuk pun just peluk.. mostly mmg tak layan kalau dia ngamuk.. biar dia layan emosi dia dl.. Dan ada makanan, dia mmg tak buat hal sbb dia mmg suka sgt makan. I can still meet my friends bringing her. Lpas tu anak i, i suruh dorg pegang & jaga. I bg susu je hhahaha!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-66436198770432856932017-06-14T14:44:16.376+08:002017-06-14T14:44:16.376+08:00Felt the same too about leaving the kids with my p...Felt the same too about leaving the kids with my parents. Plus my husband wont let me do that often. Menyusahkan orang tua dia kata. So what I did was..<br /><br />Leave the kids with the husband. Hehehe. Learn to trust your husband more. They are capable beings utk jaga anak. Kesian diorang kadang2 we mothers underestimate diorang. Bila tinggal anak dgn laki, semua kita dah sediakan. Anak dah siap mandi, makan, tidur. So suami tak susah. Padahal diorang boleh je buat. Cuma tak ikut spec kita la kan �� redho je la. Demi sanity ku, ku relakan semua itu.<br /><br />I say, share the responsibility with your spouse. A happy mom is a happy wife. Happy wife = happy husband ��Nurulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13172437613179635955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-31157727997670455162017-06-14T13:15:59.810+08:002017-06-14T13:15:59.810+08:00Salam Maria,
Firstly, kids will be kids. Let them...Salam Maria,<br /><br />Firstly, kids will be kids. Let them play. But you also need to give instruction and what happen if they dont follow the instructions. Contoh, lepas dah plag with toys kena kemas balik if not no food for them or anything that they like. ( sort of ugut but they will learn that way)<br /><br />Second, its okay for us to take out break time and buat chores slow2, dont rush!<br /><br />And last, these one paling important. My mum always said to me, dont stress for whatever reason becauce when you stress, the cancel cell will active and so on. And last2 tak pasal kita sakit. Be it stress about anak2, partner or works, dont stress. Yass cakap memang senang but you need to practice that. And dont forget your supplements<br /><br />All the best Maria!journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07523718324196736773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-66823203798603955292017-06-14T11:01:05.890+08:002017-06-14T11:01:05.890+08:00Tapi....still...kids will always be kids. Ada masa...Tapi....still...kids will always be kids. Ada masa dorang tetap tak akan faham and kita tetap juga kena hadap jer la. Ada masa saya keluar tapi tak achieved anything pun, hajat nak pergi beli barang tapi end up balik tangan kosong jer. Atau hajat nak catching up dengan kawan tapi sudahnya kecoh jaga anak jer. Tapi nak buat macam mana kan. And ada masa saya marah jer dorang depan orang ramai so that they know depan orang ramai pun kena marah kalau salah so jangan nak berlagak...hahahaha. Tapi saya memang tak bagi gadget sebab saya rasa dia buat anak-anak saya kurang pandai communicate dengan orang ramai. Jadi kemana-mana saya akan pastikan dorang sentiasa participate. Bila beli baju tanya pendapat sumer orang (penat sebab kena tanya empat2), bila nak makan panjang lebar tanya pasal favourite food dorang atau recap balik cerita yang kami tengok last night ke.. Cumanya...kalau kita sorang cakap banyak ni okay, cuma bila nak catch up dengan kawan akan ada problem sikit la sebab anak sibuk nak bercakap juga.<br /><br />Tapi saya rasa adalah lebih baik saya ambil masa keluar dan buat apa saya nak buat dari stay kat rumah sebab nak avoid penat dan stress sebab saya pernah cuba and end up rasa tak happy dan pelbagai penyesalan timbul. Bila bawak anak, menyesal tu datang waktu tengah susah manage dorang tu jer la..tapi bila malam sebelum tidur..bila saya fikir...semacam lega, 'Alhamdulillah, ada la juga benda lain aku buat dalam hidup ni'. Sebab kalau tak..bangun sibuk uruskan ank, uruskan rumah then tidur balik...at the end saya stress sebab rasa macam tak buat something big...macam membazir umur, youth, energy and health sementara masih ada ni.<br /><br />Just my experience, kot boleh ikut atau spark another brilliant idea ke. Anyway, goodluck and all the best!Widad Jannatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12801081595968131400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-61952970140869137772017-06-14T11:00:29.640+08:002017-06-14T11:00:29.640+08:00Assalamualaikum. What you feel is exactly apa yang...Assalamualaikum. What you feel is exactly apa yang ibu-ibu lain turut rasa so first of all jangan upset atau rasa rendah diri atau rasa kita ni bukan ibu terbaik. Saya ibu kepada 4 orang anak yang jarak umur setahun jer. Jadi from my humble experience...I would like to share with you some thoughts. Tapi tak jamin menjadi ke tidak sebab for me, budak semua berbeza-beza and still ibu mereka adalah yang terbaik dan lebih tahu tentang mereka.<br /><br />1. Keluar Jalan<br />Saya biasanya akan prep anak-anak dengan bagi segala pesanan siap-siap Do's and Don't...tapi secara memujuk rayu. Macam, "Kakak, Mama bawak kakak and adik-adik pergi jalan ni sebab Mama nak enjoy dengan anak-anak Mama. Anak-anak please dengar cakap Mama ya...kalau Mama cakap No it means No sebab Mama ada plan lain yang lagi best" atau sometimes bila saya terpaksa bawa sumer anak keluar sorang-sorang without husband rayuan tu lebih kepada, "Mama nak minta anak-anak Mama kesian kat Mama hari ni sebab Mama sorang, Abi tak ada" and etc. Tapi basically saya akan communicate heart to heart dengan dorang sebab saya perasan anak-anak ni dia boleh relate dengan perasaan ibu. Kalau kita sedih, anak yang tak tahu apa tu selalunya faham dan bersedih sama.<br /><br />2. Tantrum<br />Biasanya saya pilih kedai yang saya tahu akan serve cepat. Suapaya anak tak mengamuk sementara tunggu makanan sampai. Since we avoid fast food, ke kedai mamak lah kami tapi...kedai mamak tak ada dalam mall.. So...saya akan distract anak-anak dengan main teka teki dengan dorang. Anak-anak saya umur 5,4,3,2 tahun..so teka teki pun untuk keupayaan berfikir tahap tu la. I let them win. "Apa benda, ada tiga tangan pastu pusing-pusing bagi kita sejuk". See...macam tak berapa nak teka teki kan..tapi dorang akan excited nak jawab. And saya cuba sedaya upaya bagi hint macam pandang2 kat kipas as a clue la. Bila dorang dapat jawab we all akan tepuk tangan ramai2. And then, dorang pula bergilir bagi teka teki. Kalau tantrums disebabkan mainan pula, saya masih belum berjaya atasi lagi...selalunya anak sulung dan no2 boleh faham bila I said no or I promise somethings else (but make sure you always keep the promise sebab if you broke it, next time susah dah nak buat deal). Bila dengan ank lelaki yg no 3 tu, saya kena suggest something else. Kdg2 dia request something tak affordable (saya org biasa jer), saya akan suggest something else dan over-exaggerate kan suggestion saya supaya nampak lbh best dari apa yang dia requested. Tapi ada juga masa tak menjadi, so this is the time...saya tebalkan muka..heret jer dia menjauhi segala "godana" itu. Anak no 4 biasanya ikut kakak dan abang dia jer... Kalo kakak settle maka dia pun settle juga.<br /><br />Basically saya communicate jer dengan anak-anak even yg umur 3 dan 2 tahun tu tak faham sangat. Whatever plan for that day, saya akan bagitahu anak2 what are we going to do and later will remind them what we have planned. Contoh mcm kalau dah plan hari nak grocery shopping..bila dorang minta mainan..saya akan slumber jer cakap tak ada duit utk beli mainan sebab plan hari ni beli grocery jer sebab nak masak their favourite. Selalunya masa paling sesuai heart to heart ialah sebelum dorang tidur...memang akan bercakap dengan penuh emosi. Saya even pernah nangis depan my kids telling them how tiring my day was and as a result esoknya anak sulung saya kutip mainan dia and kerah adik2 kemas sama.Widad Jannatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12801081595968131400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-34989455189831849362017-06-14T10:19:12.107+08:002017-06-14T10:19:12.107+08:00Lupe pula, saye full time housewife. 25 years old....Lupe pula, saye full time housewife. 25 years old. No job. Duduk rumah. Tak pernah hang out with friends. They all super busy. Sometime, saye nangis sorang2. Sbb penat, takde mase me time sorang2. buat bende same 24/7 setahun dgn my kids. Kdg2 rase mcm nak jerk kembali zaman bujang balik. Then one day, bila saye tidurkan anak2, tgk muka anak2, i realize, why i nak merungut, diorang anak saye. Diorang yg teman saye pergi kerja mase dalam tummy lgi. Bile husband keje, diorang yg teman saye sorang2 kat rumah. Tendag2 perut. Bile fikit balik, ini adalah Amanah Allah dah bgi kat saye. Why nak menangis, merungut, menyesal. Satu hari nnti mereka da besar, kite memang akan rindu dgn keletah diorang mase kecil2 lgi. So just beat it. Walaupun mereka suka sakitkan hati kite, buat kite menangis, buat mcm fade up dlm hidup. To me, merekalah yg sebenarnye yg meriahkan hidup saye. Lucky kak maria still ade friends yg sayang dgn kak maria. Not like me. Im alone 😢. My friend semuanya bekerjaya. Bile saye contact mereka, They all mcm nak xnak balas. Saye jerk mcm lebih2 caring pasal diorang. Saye sedih sgt juga. I pun education juga. Tpi husben suruh i jdi housewife, jaga anak2, So dgn willing hati saye behenti keje. Memang sgt bosan nak mampus sbb x keje. Tpi dgn kehadiran mereka byk sebenarnye mengisi hari2 saye. Kak maria sabar ye. Doa byk2 semoga dipermudahkan segalanya. Then husben also main peranan same2 bawa berbincang elok2. <br /><br />Saye memang sgt2 xde mase me time. Bayangkan lah hehe. But takpe. Tahan sekejap lah dlm 3-4 tahun skit. Once diorg dah pre school baru saye ade me time shopping sorang gelak sorang2 sbb rase bebas giler kan. Hehe. just sabar sedikit. Sabar itukan indah. Hehe. In shaa Allah kak maria. U can do it kak maria. Kalo saye boleh. Tentu kak maria boleh. In shaa Allah 💪💪 Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10560783029242587272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-77647342731146554752017-06-14T10:10:50.309+08:002017-06-14T10:10:50.309+08:00Masa i ada anak 2, i was like u. Then setahun lps ...Masa i ada anak 2, i was like u. Then setahun lps beranak 2, i dpt tahu i pregnant. I cried n tried to abort my child. That is how stressed i was at that time. Thinking i have to handle 2 kids n another 1 is coming. Dipendekkan cerita, masa my 3rd baby da keluat n berusia 4 bulan, i decide to send them to nursery. Masa tu my condition da agak teruk. I was so stressed sampai asik marah my kids. Im scared with my own self. I rasa lonely, i feel unfair my husband. He can go out with friends and all but i have to stay home from morning till morning again n cannot meet my frens. So my husband agreed. Now my kids kat nursery. If i rasa nak jumpa kawan2 or nak ada 'me time' i hanta nursery. If not i tak hanta n just spend time with them at home. Anak 1 i rasa ok nak saba nak ckp baik2, msk 2 sabar menipis. Masuk 3 huuu mmg da macam rimau. I feel guilty asik mrh diorg. So at least now msk nursery they also can learn to mingle with friends and learn new things everyday. Memang rasa guilty hanta anak pi nursery tp sebenarnya nak tak keje. Tapi tak sanggup asik marah anak, nanti last2 i takut anak tak sayang i sebab i asik marah.Nur Arina Basilahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958338737370621183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-30246707563489050852017-06-14T10:05:34.743+08:002017-06-14T10:05:34.743+08:00Sometimes when we use our kids as an excuse from m...Sometimes when we use our kids as an excuse from meeting friends etc making us more stressful cuz we dun have time to release our stress..yes kids can spoil our meeting mood if they suddenly mengamuk, nak itu ini but that is the only time you can gossip, sembang, luahan perasaan with your friends which can freshen up your life and give you strength to face the next day...try to find tmpt lepak that is children friendly...ada mini playground..but then not every meetup is a successful one..its a gamble...if today is a failure there is always tomorrow 🙂Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16946774002196118605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852027736591937017.post-12175378428140652402017-06-14T09:36:28.633+08:002017-06-14T09:36:28.633+08:00As salam Maria.. i'm sorry for your loss. i ya...As salam Maria.. i'm sorry for your loss. i yang tak kenal Shea personally pun sedih, apatah lagi kawan2 n family dia. Semoga dia tenang disana. <br /><br />But i can so relate to the mommy issue that you wrote about. i have two boys age 5 and 2 and they are super tak boleh duduk diam. Thankfully at my age (early thirties btw.. muda kan kan kan?) most of my friends are already married so less kenduris to go to which is a relief. Whatever your kids do can't top what my eldest did at a kenduri - he went to the gamelan area while the performers were having a break and he played the gamelan solo and LOUDLY. pastu bila dah tarik, i baruuu nak makan budak ni dah hilang. tengok2 atas pelamin. Kau rasaaa? <br /><br />eating out is also a challenge. kalau pegi time diorang memang lapar, ok la they can sit and eat properly for 5 minutes. then they will walk around to check on people (-___-)<br /><br />ok banyak plak bebel. my tips and tricks (i dunno if they're gonna work for you tho):<br />1) to eat out, make sure their favorite food is on the menu. so they will sit for at least a good 5 minutes and eat.<br />2) pilih la restaurant yang bukan dalam mall, or yg ada pintu bertutup. i found kids love restaurants in malls because they can escape mama and daddy. and also so many distractions weh. whoever invented those train rides in malls obviously dont have kids.<br />3)bring their own sippy cup or bottle. korang minum la apa yg mama bwak utk korang. less chance of spilling<br />4)my husband and i take turn to go out. we made this deal to go out with friends at least once a month so time ni la i pi restaurant hopping ka, cari cafe hipster ka apa. date nights pun once a month if we can get my SIL to babysit the boys.<br />5)i know people advice against this but tablets and smart phones can be a sanity saver when you're out. my boys can tahan around 10 minutes la tengok video kat phone before they get bored of it so i use that good 10 minutes untuk menelan segala makanan yang ada before we're off chasing them again.<br />6) don't stress too much about the mess that they make. yes, at moments of distress we'd go "whyyyy anak orang lain boleh duduk diam" but im sure you won't trade your baby for anything else in the world. so hold back those tears, grit your teeth and breathe!<br /><br />you got this, supermom! good luck to you (and me. especially me) in raising our babies!Teefa Roslyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12901105541860535711noreply@blogger.com